When we got back to MD, I filled out my application for Miranda and Elizabeth and got my OB approval to be pregnant again. I did ask if they had any gay couples on the books, and they said that they were interviewing one right then, and that it looked like we would probably be a good match. But, they couldn't say for sure just yet.
So, I'll get technical for a moment, for those of who who are perhaps thinking of being a surrogate, or who are just wondering what it all entails. Though, really, it's probably just me reading this. I'll use it as a reference when somebody asks me about surrogacy.
So, if you're going with an agency, there are lots of things you'll need to fill out. Huge applications including information that you never thought anybody else would ever want to know. Consents to release medical information, consents for background checks, privacy forms (hence the changed names), etc, etc. You'll also need to get them copies of any medical records related to pregnancy, and you'll have to make sure you can get them a copy of up-to-date pap results. You basically need to open up your whole life to be judged worthy of carrying somebody's baby. Which I understand. If I were trusting somebody with my unborn child, I would want to know that they are healthy and safe. Especially if I were spending craptons of money to even bring that child into existence. Surrogacy is not a cheap endeavor.
Once I was officially accepted back into the agency, they took my application and used it to make a profile that they could share with potential IPs (Intended Parents). They matched the things that I had written with the people they had looking for a surrogate, and I was, indeed, a good match with the gay couple that they had. So, we arranged a conference call, so we could see if we matched well that way, too. We did. :) It's still good to meet in person, if possible, so that you can make sure you get along in real life, and not just on the major points. After all, you're going to be working together for at least a year, on one of the most important parts of their lives. It's important that you at least like each other.
We met at a zoo, since they have a toddler who likes the zoo, and I have an animal crazy teen who would happily spend the rest of her life there. It was a beautiful (if a bit cold) day, and we all got along great.
So, we're matched. I now have to be approved by their RE (Reproductive Endocrinologist, AKA fertility doctor), and then we can move forward with contracts. After contracts, we can start the cycling to get pregnant!
So, I'll get technical for a moment, for those of who who are perhaps thinking of being a surrogate, or who are just wondering what it all entails. Though, really, it's probably just me reading this. I'll use it as a reference when somebody asks me about surrogacy.
So, if you're going with an agency, there are lots of things you'll need to fill out. Huge applications including information that you never thought anybody else would ever want to know. Consents to release medical information, consents for background checks, privacy forms (hence the changed names), etc, etc. You'll also need to get them copies of any medical records related to pregnancy, and you'll have to make sure you can get them a copy of up-to-date pap results. You basically need to open up your whole life to be judged worthy of carrying somebody's baby. Which I understand. If I were trusting somebody with my unborn child, I would want to know that they are healthy and safe. Especially if I were spending craptons of money to even bring that child into existence. Surrogacy is not a cheap endeavor.
Once I was officially accepted back into the agency, they took my application and used it to make a profile that they could share with potential IPs (Intended Parents). They matched the things that I had written with the people they had looking for a surrogate, and I was, indeed, a good match with the gay couple that they had. So, we arranged a conference call, so we could see if we matched well that way, too. We did. :) It's still good to meet in person, if possible, so that you can make sure you get along in real life, and not just on the major points. After all, you're going to be working together for at least a year, on one of the most important parts of their lives. It's important that you at least like each other.
We met at a zoo, since they have a toddler who likes the zoo, and I have an animal crazy teen who would happily spend the rest of her life there. It was a beautiful (if a bit cold) day, and we all got along great.
So, we're matched. I now have to be approved by their RE (Reproductive Endocrinologist, AKA fertility doctor), and then we can move forward with contracts. After contracts, we can start the cycling to get pregnant!
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